This article was originally published on Medium.com.
Getting older has been making me increasingly nervous.
That sounds dumb, but I think it’s natural to overthink where you are in your life and what you’ve accomplished when you’re approaching age 30.
Or at least overthinking that wrinkle you’re going to get on your birthday. (Sorry. I edit myself in HD three times a week. What can you expect?)
But as it turns out, the last 6 months of aging have been less scary and more refreshing in some ways.
I care a bit less what people want to hear and have been powering through sharing my opinion uncensored. I’ve stopped bullshitting myself with meanless excuses and decided to either do something or come to terms that I’m definitely not going to. I’ve stopped allowing others to dictate my career path and have taken the reigns completely on my own—something I thought I did 5 years ago but have learned the difference.
And what I’ve come to realize after these and a lot of other small pivots that are making the journey to ‘older and wiser’ a lot more pleasing is that we all have a lot of time in this life.
Not meaning that life isn’t short and we should waste it. But we as humans have the same amount of time, choose to spend it differently and therefore have a lot of it to work with depending on the path we choose. Or the multiple paths, in some cases.
It’s so easy to say how busy you are. It’s even more easy to stress out about being asked to do something because you “don’t have time”.
But if we all just said ‘no’ to the things we don’t want to do and only do what makes the wheels go round in our minds and hearts, I believe it will turn out that you’ll have far less “too busy” talks and far more “very happy” talks.
Yesterday, I took some new clothes to be hung in the closet. Exciting, right? But to have the rack spaced exactly the way I like it so I can see and embrace all the good stuff, I took one thing out for every one new thing I put in. Maybe that’s how we should manage our schedules?
Out with the old and in with the new, but keep the staples.