How to Be a Successful Introvert
People are very surprised to find out that I’m an introvert. But, it’s true. A lot of people think that because I make video, I must be extroverted, but that’s simply not the case. I’m an introvert because I use energy when I’m “on” or when I’m spending time with people. I gain energy by spending time alone. I recharge by getting away and by being with my family.
If you’re an introvert, like me, you can still make video. You can still show your personality through your online presence. Yes, stepping out of your comfort zone is hard, but it’s doable. Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t make sales or get speaking gigs.
How do I know? Because I’m an introvert. I get it. Being successful is simply about showing up and doing the work. It’s about practicing until you get it right and hitting “publish” even when things aren’t perfect. When you do this over and over, your confidence increases and then one day you start making sales and are asked to be a speaker at major conferences.
I spend energy when I talk to the lens of a camera and speak on stages around the world. Because I know this about myself, I can give myself the freedom and respect to recharge in a way that works for me.
This is so important because when you know what kind of person you truly are, you have a path to figure out your way through it, not around it.
I once met someone (in person) from the social media space. I was excited to meet them – to tell them I had been following their channel and that I liked what they created. Honestly, they blew me off, and I was a little taken aback. I mean, this is social media, right?! When I brought it up to my friend later, my friend dismissed the behavior by saying, “Oh, it’s ok. He’s an introvert.”
Wouldn’t it feel awful if you and I bumped into each other at the airport (my second home!), and instead of greeting you, I said, “Oh, I’m really not in the mood to talk right now. I’m an introvert.”
You should not play the introvert card. You can’t use your introverted personality as an excuse or you’ll never see success.
How to Be a Successful Introvert
Being a successful introvert means you have to show up. I respect who I am and acknowledge that I need to be alone sometimes. (Sometimes, I go to the movies alone!) I also respect the context of where I am. For example, I take care of myself and charge up my energy so that I can be my best self and can show up when I meet people (you!) in the real world.
You’ll get so much out more of your situations and experiences if you fully show up. You’ll make more sales. You’ll create stronger connections.
It’s not about you – it’s about making them (your client, your friend, your fan) feel special and letting them know that you’re there for them.
Most of this gig – any gig – is showing up. It’s more than what most people do – a lesson I learned from one of my first jobs. Seriously. If you treat yourself right by spending your energy in the best way you can, you’ll be able to spend your energy in ways that nurture real people and real emotion.
Don’t make excuses, especially not the introvert excuse. Going after what you want is so much better than making excuses. It’s so satisfying. Actions and rewards come when you put in the work and effort, and that means spending your energy and recharging in the best way that works for you.
Trust me, I know. I’m a real introvert.